The Myth of Motivation: Why You’re Not Lazy, Just Misinformed 🔥🛋️🧠
If you’ve ever called yourself lazy, this one’s for you.
Spoiler: you’re not lazy. You’re likely overwhelmed, under-supported, exhausted, or stuck in a system that doesn’t fit your brain.
Motivation isn’t magic—it’s misunderstood. And once you understand how it actually works, you stop waiting for it and start designing for it.
The Lie We’ve Been Sold 🙄
We’ve been taught that motivation is the spark that leads to action:
Motivation → Action → Success
But neuroscience—and real life—say the opposite is true:
Action → Momentum → Motivation
Waiting to feel motivated before you act is like waiting to get warm before you light the fire.
So What Actually Kills Motivation?
- ❌ Perfectionism: If it can’t be done perfectly, why bother?
- ❌ Overwhelm: Too many choices = freeze mode
- ❌ Shame: “I should’ve done this already” = paralysis
- ❌ Disconnection: No emotional relevance = no internal fuel
Build It Back: Motivation by Design 🎯
- Shrink the Task
- Don’t write the book. Open the doc.
- Don’t clean the house. Put one dish away.
- Small action = massive momentum
- Make It Visible
- Use sticky notes, reminders, whiteboards—whatever externalizes the goal
- ADHD brains especially need visual cues to spark action
- Pair It With Pleasure
- Fold laundry while listening to music
- Tackle admin while sipping coffee
- Enjoyment fuels consistency
- Celebrate Micro-Wins
- Literally say out loud: “I did the thing!”
- Celebration rewires the brain to seek repeat success
The Truth About You 🔍
You’re not lazy. You’re tired of chasing a lie that never worked for your nervous system in the first place.
Design for your brain. Stack the deck in your favor. Start tiny.
Motivation will catch up.
Bottom Line 💡
Motivation isn’t something you wait for. It’s something you generate—by acting, adjusting, and showing up messy until it sticks.
Because success isn’t built by the most motivated. It’s built by the most resiliently consistent.
You’re not broken. You’re just ready for a better strategy.
Grateful for the connections we’re building,
Na’amah